So at 6ft2, I’m very tall. If I hadn’t noticed this fact, I would have found out very quickly – from the ten strangers a day who feel the need to let me know.
There are many strange things about being tall but one of the most annoying has to be complete strangers (or fashion professionals incognito??) who feel compelled to tell me that as a tall girl, I should not wear heels.
I didn’t wear heels until my early 20’s because I couldn’t get them in my size but now I can and you can’t get me out of them – particularly 3 or 4 inch one’s on a night out.
Now look, people don’t go around telling short girls they shouldn’t wear flat shoes so why do 60% of the peopl e I meet insist on telling me that, as a tall girl, I shouldn’t wear heels?
Tall women should wear heels and here’s my top reasons why:
- As stylist and fashionista Jay Manuel says “Everyone can look like a supermodel with a bootleg trouser and a high heel” (it does quite ring true if you say ‘ballet flat’ instead of ‘high heel’ , does it?).
- They make you seem leaner and slimmer.
- The give you the best walk which just can’t be replicated in flats.
- They give you better legs, slimmer ankles and accentuate the best of your figure.
- The are the glamorous and somehow that changes how you feel and behave.
- Is your love-life lacking? Well get some high heels on! No, not just because men seem to love them but because, according to the latest research by Dr Maria Cerruoto , wearing high heels improves your pelvic floor muscles, and we modern girls all know what that does for you.
- They make you taller. Yes, I really did say that! Your height is something to be proud of and to be honest, when you’re very tall, 3 inches isn’t actually going to make a whole lot of difference to how tall you look (6ft and 6ft3 all look the same from down there).
- They make your feet look smaller.
- When was the last time you read the words “fabulous flat pump”? Exactly.
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Rachael 01.17.09 at 11:33 pm
I am 5′11″ and i am constantly being told “gosh, you’re tall aren’t you?!!” i’ve started turning round and saying “gosh you’re short aren’t you?!!” and they seem offended by this! well anyway i live in heels and love them! my best friend is a couple of inches shorter than me and always refuses to wear heels because her boyfriend is her height and she didn’t want to be taller than him (even though he’d love it) so i decided to buy her her first pair of knock out heels….and now i can’t get her out of them! so all the short and “average” people out there should get used to it because us tall girls, with our legs and heels are here to stay!
Lynn 04.04.09 at 5:29 pm
Great post! You make a great argument for wearing high heels. At 5′11″ I’ve heard my entire life that I shouldn’t wear heels–which makes shoe shopping a pain in the butt since I have big feet! I promise to wear some high heels
Alexandra 04.10.09 at 7:28 pm
hey! ive never had a chance to were high heels, but i really want to! i am 5,8 and my boyfriend is 5,5 but that doesn’t seem to bother him nor me, although i do feel self concious around other people and most of my friends are around 5,3. i just need a little more of an uplift before i think i can try on a pair of heels and feel confident enough to go out in them! that is my dream!!! somebody help me feel more confident! xox alex
Bella 04.13.09 at 6:41 am
hey gals i’ve been reading your comments and they have all encouraged me to wear high heels as a tall girl. i dont want to grow anymore but im only 15. People are always telling me wow your so tall and i never know whether to take it as a compliment or not. both my sisters are shorter than me and their both older.My older sister is very pretty so it’s hard not to compare myself to her. thanks gals for your encouraging comments we tall girls have to stick together.
Amazona 04.14.09 at 7:51 pm
Hey Bella, we’re so pleased that you like the blog and it’s making you feel better about being tall. It really is a great thing, it’s just that sometimes it takes a while to realise it! (I should know, I’m 6ft2 and taller than everyone in my family, including the boys!!)
x
Jheri 05.12.09 at 1:03 pm
I’m 190 cm, which is just a bit under 6′3, and wear heals sometimes. When I do comfort is a big thing so I stay with mid heels like Danskos mostly. I do wear taller heels for short amounts of time, but something that doesn’t hurt that I can wear all day is much better.
Rebecca 05.13.09 at 9:57 pm
I think that I am 6ft now, and I am 15. I would love to wear heels but I feel like I can’t. I don’t like when people that are shorter than me tell me “Do you really need to be any taller?” I am taller than most boys and girls at my school, and it kinda sucks. I am just like why can’t there be any tall guys? But anyways, I really wanna wear heels, I just don’t want people telling me things I already know. “Hey your tall” really wow I would of never found out if you hadn’t told me. It just annoys me. But I AM going to wear heels to my family reunion. [My family is dad side of the family is like 6ft or taller for the guys, but the girls are short, I am always like why can't I be short? I feel weird being the tall one.]
I loved your guyses stories. I need to gain some type of happiness with my heigth. I am so glad that I found this site.
Amazona 05.15.09 at 4:49 pm
Hey Rebecca, Thanks so much for you comments and I’m really pleased you like the blog! DEFINITELY wear heels to you family reunion - you’ll look and feel way better. As for boys, I was always way taller than all the boys too… but then I didn’t know enough sporty boys back then! I usually end up dating sportsmen as they are generally taller than average .. You should work out how to meet sporty boys! x
Amazona 05.15.09 at 4:50 pm
I agree … I can’t be running around in stilettos all day - my feet would never last! Wedges are great tho’… all the benefits with none (or less) of the pain! hahax
Rebecca 05.15.09 at 7:37 pm
Thank Amazona, I am definitly wearing heels to the reunion. And I might wear heels on my vacation, but I’m not sure if I would wear them to school. I am already taller than just about everyone, with heels thats adding more heighth.
I try to go for the sporty boys, but the only tall ones are the seniors, and they wounldn’t want to date a freshman.
Nova 05.17.09 at 9:55 pm
The most remarkable experience being tall and unafraid of high heels was New Years Eve 2008. I was wearing a party dress; wide flouncing checked polyester skirt with diamond buttons on a velvet bodice and a wide hot pink sash to top it off. I wore 3.5 in black heels by Oh Deer!. Upon entering the bar a man turned to me and drunkenly exclaimed “Wow! I don’t care if you’re a man, you’re f***ing beautiful!” I was amused but aghast.
Nova 05.17.09 at 9:56 pm
oh, im six and three quarters flat footed.
Amazona 05.18.09 at 10:01 am
Nova.. don’t worry - me too! Despite looking decidedly UN-male.. in supermarkets, on the street… people always say to their kids “don’t get in the man’s way” or something along those lines… I’ve got long wavy hair and breasts for Christs sake!! haha
mily 05.19.09 at 4:26 pm
Wow, it’s amazing how inconsiderate people are and they tell such things.
You are very brave girl wearing heels and have to deal with people’s prejudice and insecurities.
I’m sure you look awesome in high heels!
Amazona 05.19.09 at 6:04 pm
Not sure I’m brave Mily.. More that I’m so tall I don’t think it makes a difference whether I wear heels or not - people stare and make comments whatever! I’d rather look better when they do stare….
haha
Linda 07.03.09 at 3:29 pm
I’m very tall at 6′2″, and I heels which are 4″+ all the time, I even have a pair of 7.5 inchers for formal evenings.
Even when im out with my cute bf who is only 5′2″(bless him) and very shy. When I wore the 7.5″ heels on a night out he looked really intimidated, but I don’t care. He dont mind too much tho so its cool.
jessica 08.12.09 at 7:03 pm
i feel weird to wear high heel i am 6 feet tall,,when i was 5,10 i always wore them and now i am 22 and 6ft,feel very ashamed to wear any high heel because of my husband and he is 5,10 how can i get past everyone telling me i am tall and stares,some times i feel proud that i am. Tyra Banks is tall to and beautiful,why should i be ashamed i have a lot of high heel shoes stacked in my closet never wear and cant imagine wearing i wish more girls are taller,so i don’t have to feel bad for my self,i wear only flats for past 3 years i hate them i wanna change i love shoes like every girl ,but how do feel confident wearing them,let me know,i just bought beautiful 3,5 inch shoes amazing shoes i don’t even know what to do to wear them or not to ,,i am afraid of like out of this world,weird,,,
kiara 08.30.09 at 8:10 pm
I’m 5′10 just turned 13 and in the 8th grade. I wanna wear high heels to my graduation but my step mom deliberatley told me that I shouldn’t or well couldn’t because I would ‘’stick out like a giraffe”!
Tamika 09.07.09 at 5:17 pm
Jesica, you’re tall with the heels and you’re gonna be tall with them right? So love youself for who you are and how you look. You’re a beautiful tall women and be proud of it. And wear your pretty high heels if you love ‘em . Even if you start out with the shorter heels. WEAR YOUR HEELS!!!!!!! And be confident! People can tell when you’re confident and when you’re not. Show them that you are and represent for all of us beautiful tall women!!!!!
Tamika 09.07.09 at 5:27 pm
i MEANT TO SAY YOU’RE TALL WITH THE HEELS AND YOU’RE TALL WITHOUT THEM
kayla 09.15.09 at 7:12 pm
Im 17, from england and around 6”Ft … Evryone knows me as being tall, however when i go out with my friends i never wear heels! I feel uncomfortable anyway when im out but i shouldnt, i should be proud to be tall ! and your right , heels wouldnt make tht much of a difference im going to buy a pair :):) xx
Amazona 09.16.09 at 7:21 am
Hey Kayla, I live in England too.. I’m 6ft2 and I now wear heels all the time. I never used to but people comment on my height whether I’m wearing heels or not - so rude!! I’m now used to wearing heels and wouldn’t go back flat
… Yay for you getting some heels!! xx
Davanny 09.22.09 at 9:24 pm
I can understand why people like to comment on tall people and yet don’t say anything about short people.
Everyone is or has been short before, it’s just common. But they’ve never been tall; so to them, it’s peculiar.
“Now look, people don’t go around telling short girls they shouldn’t wear flat shoes so why do 60% of the peopl e I meet insist on telling me that, as a tall girl, I shouldn’t wear heels?”
Davanny 09.22.09 at 9:26 pm
And also, probably 85% of the population is shorter than you and me. Minorities stand out and are more easily pointed at.
Praj 09.27.09 at 4:53 am
Focus on the good features like getting good boobs, better face, hairstyle etc.. It’ll be like putting a good feature on the top. Like in shops where things are put in the top where everyone can see. They should look more at the great feature. Height just helps in that way (in fashion sense). you are already tall, so there is no need for heels.
Trace 10.07.09 at 9:40 pm
I’m 22 and 6ft. I’m always taller than most people around me and I LOVE it. I do tend to wear flat shoes during the day, but this does not stop me from wearing heels at night. I prefer to wear 2-3inch heels, but recently I’ve purchused 4inch heels (I just couldn’t resist it). I don’t think being tall should influence the way you want to dress, besides most shoes comes with heels anyways. I do think I intimidate shorter women sometime and it can make you feel a bit insecure, but hell just get over it. If ppl want to stare it’ll only be out of jealousy.
joanna 10.11.09 at 10:40 am
i’m 5′ 9″.i’m from serbija and i have a question am i to tall to wear high heels.
anne 10.16.09 at 3:16 pm
im anout 6ft 3 and have bought a pair of heels ,i really want to werar them but i feel too tall, they are about 4inchs and i really want to wear them i dont want anyone saying ohh wats the weather like up there!! how do i get passed that and have the confidence to wear them?? please help!!
Amazona 10.19.09 at 6:49 pm
Hey Anne… get those heels on! If you’re not used to heels then you might feel a bit strange to start with but .. HONESTLY.. most people will be looking up at you when you’ve got flats on, so heels aren’t going to make a difference. They’ll make you look better, walk better and have more confidence in time… I know - I didn’t wear heels until I was about 24 … weird at first and then I couldn’t get enough. I’m 30 and I only wear heels now
… As for ppl commenting.. if they’re petty enough to do so, just let them.. it’s only their small-minded attitude which allows them to do so.. Go on.. grab those heels !! 
xx
lou123 10.21.09 at 2:11 pm
I don’t mind women wearing heels but I don’t like the double standard. If a guy wears just 1 inch lifts he’s got a complex and he’s insecure. All the reasons you gave can be summarised as to make you feel more confident/sexy. What can a guy do that takes under 2 seconds?
Also how women justify their height requirements because “I like to wear heels”.
Also it just seems that the women who do enjoy wearing flats are feeling peer-pressured to wear heels by magazines and websites. Personally i don’t find mangled and screwed up feet attractive ten years down the road
Amazona 10.21.09 at 3:15 pm
I’m not sure the ‘peer-pressure’ to wear heels from the press is anywhere near as bad as it used to be - mainly thanks to young Hollywood stars and models adopting flats alot of the time - and I agree with you that everyone should wear what they want.. However, tall girls and women are often criticised for wearing heels by random strangers and therefore regularly suffer pressure from society NOT to wear heels.. My intention is to encourage those that are worried about the consequences (for a better word) of wearing heels should realise that they can! x
lou123 10.22.09 at 10:05 am
Okay i respect your intention. Still, I think this “confidence” should be attained from the inside such as taking on hobbies, and improving one self. The typical advice that would be given to a guy who is short. As for the random strangers they should just mind their own business.
Wearing heels only to boost self confidence is a short term fix and pretty superficial. Just reinforces the idea that women are there to look good. All i am saying is that yes wear heels if you want! but don’t wear heels to fill in some void in your life.
But hey! i don’t want to sound like I’m hating on tall girls.
I’m 5″10 and my kickboxing partner is a 6″2 cute girl. And she hits hard!!!
Do tall women mind dating shorter guys. I know i’m fine with it and don’t make a big deal out of it. It just seems that they would want someone taller.
Beth 11.02.09 at 11:58 pm
I am 6ft. tall. All of my life I was intimidated by high heels and never wore anything more than a kitten heel. I didn’t want to stand out. Just recently though, I had to attend a 4 day conference where networking and socializing were VERY important. Finally…I wanted to stand out! The entire trip (out of state), I wore 3″ heels - sexy shoes!! I did stand out!!! I felt like a million bucks!! Heads turned! Wear your heels ladies!!!
Linz 11.09.09 at 12:25 am
Ok i am 5′8, so while I am tall, I am not tall in the tall catagory. But even I will get comments, mostly from men saying “Wow, you’re tall!” I am like oh thanx for telling me that, you just made my day. All my life I wished I was shorter, especially in middle school, cause the boys don’t grow like girls at that age. but I married a guy who is about 5′6 and for years wouldn’t wear heels, afraid of the stares and comments from random people when we were out together . But recently I have found myself buying heels and wearing them out with him. And he could care less. If a guy is shorter than you, but is confident with himself then he is only going to appreciate you! You will be like his own supermodel :)but really, I was sick of always wishing I was the girl in fabulous heels, tired of being afraid, so I just went for it! It is great and all that matters is that YOU feel good!
bigyellow 11.10.09 at 3:09 am
Ladies, I’m a 6′0″ tall man who LOVES tall women. I think society brainwashes men into not liking tall women, but there are plenty of men who are secure enough to like what they like and not care what others think. Life is too short (pun not intended) to not go after what you like.
When I was younger, I never really cared whether a woman was short or tall. Then I started dating a girl who was 6′0″. I still remember the first kiss. She was wearing heels. Not much, maybe an inch and a half. However, it was the first time I ever had to look up to kiss a woman. I think that hooked me.
I especially like tall women with long legs. For example, I’m 6′0″, but only have a 32″ inseam. My ex, at 6′0″ had a 36″ inseam. When she wore a good pair of heels, legs for days! Men love long legs. Why wouldn’t they love a little extra leg? Because society has told us we should be ashamed if their girl is taller than them. It’s stupid.
Once, my ex had a pair of 3.5″ heels on and we decided to just walk and talk. I could see two guys looking at us as we were passing by. One of them said as we passed by, “Man, I could never date a woman taller than me. It’s like dating my mother.” However, to me it was like water off of a duck’s back.
What’s the point? Whether you’re 6′1″ or 6′4″, wear heels or not, there will be those who don’t like your height, those that are indifferent and those who will treat you like a queen. Find the guys who love you for your long legs (they’re out there) and ignore the rest.
I can’t tell you what to say when people come up to you and say rude/stupid comments. I knew this gorgeous black girl at my church who was a full 6′5″. When I met her, I never once brought up her height (why mention the obvious?). But I was surprised by those who couldn’t come up with anything more clever than, “Gosh, you’re tall”. She was always incredibly gracious, but again, I don’t know what to tell you to say other than dress to flaunt your assets because there are plenty of men out there who enjoy your height.
Anna 12.01.09 at 6:10 pm
I’m 37, 6′ tall and have been since 10th grade. When I was younger, I always heard “you should play basketball!”. Now that I’m older, I hear “did you play basketball in school?” It’s amusing to me because I was never good at that sport. I played other sports though. My boyfriend is 6′2 and I’m wearing 3 inch heels to his work Christmas party. I doubt I’ll hear any comments, but if I do, my standard response these days is “wow, you are SO observant!” But I say it with a laugh. Because I LOVE being tall and I don’t care what other people think!!
kate 12.15.09 at 12:10 am
hi, im 5′8.. im off out on the town in 3 days and ive just bought a brand new black dress, im just uncertain weather to wear my new high heals because, for one.. my legs look REAALLY long and for two.. im going to be taller than ALL my friends that are coming out
x
Sheraya 12.15.09 at 8:02 pm
I’m 5″11 and still in high school so it is kinda hard to not feel strange when I’m taller than all the guys……. lol but I don’t give a dam and ware then just to piss then off xD
Grace 01.26.10 at 2:09 am
I feel so happy to hear everyones comments, I’m 5′10 and have always worn high heels. I feel more confident and sexy with hihg heels on but I don’t get that many guys they always look at me or slag me off saying snide remarks like “oh whats the weaher like up there” it puts me down. I have a bf now and loves my height without heels but he accepts me for who I am which is great!!
Miya 01.29.10 at 6:09 am
Hi Amazona! I’m 6′3″ & sometimes its fun to wear high heels! I wouldn’t want to all the time but getting up to 6′7″ plus in a nice stylish club is a hoot!